Sunday, January 24, 2010

how to get over a person that died of lung cancer

how to get over a person that died of lung cancer?
my uncle was the youngest one of my dads bros and he died of lung cancer and cant get over it!!
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Grieving is a natural process everyone goes through.With some, they get over it quickly,with others it can take years to overcome the grief.Alot has to do with how close the person was with the deceased. My condolences for the loss. It's best to let every person grieve in their own pace and way.It also helps to greive together and give support to one another
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Honestly, You may not ever get over it. My dad died almost ten years ago of Pancreatic Cancer and my Grandmother died of sepsis from post operation healing from cancer. People you love and miss you don't get over, but life gets easier as time goes on. You won't obsess over the person and their death on a regular daily basis, but you will always remember and love them. I think that is what makes us human. You don't truly get over the ones that you love when they're gone. But you will always have good, loving memories you won't want to get over. Just let time take its course and eventually you can live a more normal life. I'm sorry for your loss. I know that death is heart breaking. But with time, you can go a day or more with out the serious amount of mourning you normally would go through.
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Even though the death of your uncle saddens you If you would start thinking of all of the good times with him and cherish those momements it will help get over the grief which is human nature. Always remember that he is in a better place and his pain and suffering is over and rejoice in the fact that someday you will be with him again. We are on this planet for a short time and it is only a stepping stone to something bigger and better.
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Cry, scream, use a punching bag (the kind that hangs & says Everlast on it) :^) take a deep breath.... now, this is decent advice that I have learned over the years. Recently, 2 very, very dear, kind and decent people I knew (one of them was the only "grandmother" my children grew up with & was one of the sweetest people to know) the other just passed - she was around my age & had breast cancer (which spread throughout her body). you honor someone's passing by remembering them in heart & mind. I don't know why western culture thinks you need to "get over it", but I think you should remember how they touched you. remember the lessons they taught you and even the times you didn't always see 'eye-to-eye'. Talk about them with the people who cared for, respected & loved him like you do. and it's ok if they don't want to reminisce now, just like its ok those times you don't want to talk about it either
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You don't get over it. It gets easier as time goes on. The first year sucks. Firsts without them. You have to keep his memory alive. Talk about him when you feel like it, talk to your family about your thoughts.

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